Perhaps people who marry young are the lucky ones; following their heart to the fullest and not listening to reason, advice or lessons holding only true to what they feel in their heart. We Easily Share Money My husband and I had nothing when we got married. So perhaps one of the greatest disadvantages of people who married too young is rate of divorce, which is about 50% or higher. You have less pressure to start a family. He works hard as a supervisor and wants to finish getting his degree in business to be a manager at the company he works for.
It is a basic fact that education has become the necessity of life. And while making it on your own is definitely admirable, having a partner along the way also has its perks. After all, neither developed any autonomy in the important areas of their life and although they dont admit it; they wonder about what might have come their way or become possible had they followed a different path. I had no tools or books or friends my age at the time to truly prepare me for this new season I was entering. Financial Security Issues Most men who marry at a very young age are not settled well in life yet. List of Pros of Early Marriage 1.
I was however, 9 months pregnant when we got married…so we did everything a bit backwards. When married at a young age, it is easy to adopt new changes and accept new people in life without finding fault. They were and got married just a few short months after graduation. And you owe it to the 19-year-old girl you were to live a loving life. People may try to take energy out of the way to fulfil the needs of their children, but the physical status creates a gap to meet the energy level of the kids. Today, people view their 20s as a time to become addicted to a multitude of things, as well as become morally perverted. At the time, we both worked together at a sporting goods store and became friends very quickly.
So, let me jot down a list of points that might help you make a better decision. My mom and sisters caution me to not move that direction yet…. Likewise, there will be difficulties that should arise in terms of financial security when they lack the knowledge or education or if the opportunities are limited. A friend of mine got engaged at 23, married at 24, and divorced by 27. There are just as many couples that were unsuccessful in early marriages and they may also have insight that a person marrying young has not yet acquired.
They should experience the worst as they would be compelled to become a dropout in order to give way for their babies and family. Therefore, it will make you even more responsible individuals. Also, younger couples should have lesser complexities to be untangled which can result from failed relationships in the past. Lack of Time to Get to Know Each Other Being married young can sometimes make it hard for couples to adjust. I don't know how much longer I can do this. It gets easier to combine each other's lives when married at a young age. So my advice would be to date as many as you want before you find the One.
Parents who marry later and have children have the wisdom and maturity to deal with child-rearing, have more patience and know their priorities. Although goals have been set aside, that does not mean they will not be achieved. Statistics say that marriage around the age of 20 is less likely end in divorce. You need to be 100% sure before you make the greatest decision of your life. They either can't find decent employment because of a lack of secondary education, or they start college as non-traditional students and have children to raise as well. He knows that he needs a lot of money to carry out the family responsibilities. Financially Stable It is not an easy task to make a career and look after the family or household.
Although they know better now; their mistakes are still with them. I think the most absurd thing about all the criticism of young marriage is the assumption that everyone getting married plans to have kids. Did I have a choice? In such cases, parents should teach them first and let them grow. Setting my goals way high. I am an administrative assistant for an office while obtaining a degree in business to help boost my pay for my current job and hopefully going to go on to law school. As I mentioned above, at times, two individuals commit to a relationship not yet knowing what they really want out of life. To say we were young is actually an understatement.
They say that money is the biggest cause of strife in a marriage, and I can certainly see why this would be the case. Like that great-looking, comfortable hole-in-the-knee pair of Levi's jeans you threw on for early morning classes, you wake up at 26 to find your significant other is no longer such a perfect fit. We have grown into our money together. I have seen a lot of older couples struggle to mesh their lives together as a married couple, when they had lived on their own for years beforehand. You can never get drunk and do anything crazy that might get you into trouble. At least, this is exactly what happened to a Reddit user. She says she wouldn't ever take them away from me, but she would.
Some people who get married young do so under social or religious pressure, or just without much consideration of consequences. Anyway, here is some background before the judgment comes my way. I have seen that you can have all the love in the world, but when you aren't willing to work on your issues, there is no way to make a marriage work. There are other problems with couples that married too young, especially when they married before having definitive plans about how to progress through life. And while I agree with not rushing into marriage or marrying this young for most, I am so proud and glad we did. This is what God wanted for me…for us.